Jay Wilson

Jay is a coach and counselor who draws on 13 years of experience walking alongside individuals as they pursue personal growth and professional development.

Growth is facilitated by increasing self-awareness and moving towards a more authentic presence. As a coach, Jay draws on his clinical training and extensive experience working with individuals in a helping relationship to pursue their personal and professional development.

Jay believes that once a person is willing to be curious about their inner world and lived experience in relationship to other people, they are standing on the threshold to the doorway of growth. Jay sees coaching as most effective when exploring a person’s internal world, leadership style, relationship patterns, personal dynamics and barriers that inhibit a person from being more aligned with how they desire to engage their work and relationships.

Specialization

Jay works with founders, C-level executives, and director level individuals who are looking to be more present as they engage their work, navigate relationships with key employees, and build a culture of empathy, creativity and support. Jay’s work with organizational leaders and members of their team gives him insight and understanding into the demanding challenges that arise and the need for personal support.

Education and Certifications

Jay is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in the state of California. He earned his Bachelor of Science in Finance from the University of Florida, a Master of Arts in Counseling and a Master of Divinity from Reformed Theological Seminary.

Jay is also an iEQ9 Integrative Enneagram Accredited Practitioner.

After finishing his dual Master degree programs, Jay was recruited to San Francisco as a counselor, and he soon became the director of the City Church Counseling Center. During this time, Jay provided direction and oversight for the counseling center, created systems to provide care for individuals, co-created and co-facilitated a yearlong personal formation course, provided training for leaders, led offsites and retreats, and maintained a regular caseload of clients.

Personal Interests

Jay lives in San Francisco and is married to his wife, Debbie. They have three boys who are full of life. When Jay is not coaching, counseling or teaching, he enjoys spending time with his family, playing basketball, fishing, reading a good book, and cooking.

Learn More About Jay

Inner work is a process of understanding who we are and how we show up in our work and relationships. It is a process of growing in self-awareness and self-knowledge and leaning into a more proactive (less reactive/default) way of engaging our work and others. Through this process, we see ourselves more clearly, identify ways we desire to grow and change, and move toward maturity.
Inner work is essential because we can often be unaware of what motivates our behaviors. We are unaware of what drives our anxiety, busyness, and how others experience us. We continue to run into the same roadblocks and try to resolve old problems with old solutions that don't work. Inner work is vital because it reveals our blind spots, provides new pathways to old problems and allows us to make decisions from a more centered and connected place. Being attuned to what motivates us will enable us to be more present to our relationships, role, and responsibilities from a place of maturity.
Being deeply curious about our inner world and experiences is a key unlock to people growing personally and professionally. There is no shortcut, but the time spent growing in self-awareness, self-knowledge, and envisioning how a person wants to move into their work and relationships is one of the most profound types of work an individual can pursue.
My clients describe me as empathetic, nonjudgmental, curious, and challenging in areas where they need to be challenged. Clients often express appreciation for how I frame their situations and provide clarity for what they want to say or do in personal and professional situations, and feel a sense of their own agency to move forward in ways that feel aligned with who they are and how they desire to lead.
Clients often want to role-play scenarios with me, and one of the comments I often hear is, "I want to record our sessions so I can say it the way you said it." The growth is when they realize I am just providing a space for them to hear themselves more clearly, be direct in what they need, and better understand how their emotions impact what they say and don't say. This process helps them move past old problems in new ways.
I find this work very meaningful and transformational. People are fascinating. I am deeply curious about what motivates people as they engage in their work and relationships and what gets in the way of them growing and changing in the ways they would like to grow and change. I enjoy coming alongside others in their growth process.